Can Marriage Counseling Really Help Your Relationship?
When I first started my practice, I remember reading a statistic about divorce that I found shocking! And that was that 40-50% of all first marriages in the United States ended in divorce.
According to recent surveys, however, the divorce rate in the U.S. fell by 18% between 2008 and 2016. While everyone has their theory as to why the rate is falling, the theory among therapists is that it is because marriage counseling actually works, and more couples are working to improve their marriage rather than giving up.
If you and your spouse are experiencing difficulties, here are some reasons that marriage counseling can create change in your relationship:
One of the biggest benefits of seeking counseling is having help seeing negative behavioral patterns, whether those patterns are yours as individuals and/or as a couple. Healing can only begin once patterns have been recognized. Once recognized both of you can work on changing the old patterns and creating new, healthier patterns of relating to each other.
A therapist is not like a friend or family member who is going to take sides and hand out potentially harmful advice. Marriage counselors have a track record of dealing with all sorts of marital issues and want to understand what’s going on so they can offer the best strategies for healing. Your marriage is the client and your therapist will work to give you the best chance to save your marriage.
A Safe Space
Marriage counseling offers both spouses a safe space to be open and honest about their feelings while sharing in a more healthy way. If feelings and thoughts are not delivered in a safe place then honesty can have adverse effects and create more problems. Counseling offers a safe environment in which feelings and thoughts can be shared in a productive way.
A Place to Rebuild Trust
Trust is the bedrock of every relationship. But when that trust is broken, as it is through infidelity, it is hard to put the pieces back together. Marriage counselors have years of experience dealing with issues of infidelity. In counseling we’ll explore different ways to rebuild trust one step at a time.
Bringing Out Withheld Emotions
Did you know that trapped intense emotions are one of the main reasons marriages break down? When you have feelings of anger, resentment and frustration locked deep inside you, they fester there and make matters worse and will seep into your daily interactions with your partner. In our counseling I offer the space and opportunity to let these emotions out in healthy, respectful ways.
If your relationship is on the rocks right now, divorce is not your only solution. I have helped thousands of couples get back on track and feel closer to their partner than they ever thought was possible. Let’s create a healthier more connected relationship that works for both of you.
I’d be happy to discuss how I can help. Email me for a FREE consultation at: [email protected]