Let’s talk about sex…

Talking about sex with your partner can feel awkward at first, but open and honest communication is key to a healthy and fulfilling relationship for everyone. Here are some tips to help make the conversation easier and more productive:

1. Pick the Right Time & Place

• Choose a relaxed, private setting where you both feel comfortable.

• Avoid bringing it up during or immediately after sex—discussing it beforehand or at a neutral time is often better.

2. Use “I” Statements

• Instead of saying, “You never do this” or “You should be more like this,” try, “I really enjoy when you…” or “I’d love to try…”

• This keeps the conversation positive and non-accusatory.

3. Be Honest but Kind

• If there’s something you want more of (or less of), express it in a way that focuses on your desires, not criticism.

• Example: “I feel really close to you when we [specific activity]. I’d love to explore that more together.”

4. Ask Open-Ended Questions

• Encourage dialogue by asking things like:

  • “What turns you on the most?”

  • “How do you feel about our intimacy lately?”

  • “Is there anything new you’d like to try?”

5. Be Open to Feedback

• Just as you want to share your thoughts, be willing to listen to your partner’s as well.

• If they bring up something sensitive, try to respond with curiosity instead of defensiveness.

6. Use Humor If It Feels Natural

• Sometimes, a little laughter can ease tension and make the conversation more relaxed.

7. Educate Yourselves Together

• If there are things you’re both unsure about, consider reading books, listening to podcasts, or even speaking with a professional together.

8. Check In Regularly

• Your needs and desires might evolve over time, so make sex and intimacy an ongoing conversation, not just a one-time discussion.

I can help increase emotional and physical intimacy in your relationship through couple’s therapy sessions or a couple’s intensive retreat. Reach out to me at: [email protected]