Can My Relationship Be Saved?
Relationships can enrich our lives, but they can also cause us pain. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or significant other, a relationship can come with its share of ups and downs. And as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, more often than not, putting in the effort to resolve relational issues can and does result in a healthier bond. I have helped many couples resolve decade long issues to feel closer than ever before.
But there are those relationships that, no matter the amount of work, therapy and goodwill put into them, will never bring a return on your investment of time and energy. Before making this difficult decision to end a relationship let’s dive in deep, do some healing work and regain clarity in your relationship through my Accelerated Couples Immersive Retreat.
Signs the Relationship Needs Help:
There are More Negative Interactions Than Positive Ones
Every relationship has its good interactions and its not-so-good ones. But there are those relationships that seem like every interaction is tense and filled with negative emotions. When communication becomes difficult or impossible, the relationship is needing help, NOW! John Gottman states that in times of conflict we need 5:1 ratio of positive statements to negative ones.
A betrayal of trust can truly be one of the most hurtful things to happen in a relationship or marriage. It takes time and intention from both partners to heal this kind of hurtful event. An infidelity doesn’t necessarily mean the end of the relationship, it may be able to be saved when both partners want to create a new and improved relationship together.
Respect is essential in relationships. But sometimes there are those individuals that seem incapable of respecting the other person, their needs, their boundaries, their wishes, etc. Whether this is emotional abuse, physical or sexual abuse if someone is incapable of having empathy or respect for others’ needs this is a HUGE red flag. This needs to be addressed ASAP especially when safety is an issue.
An addiction can be to shopping, drugs, alcohol, work, sex, etc. When these things are disrupting your marriage, work or family relationships you may have a problem. Dealing with addictions can be difficult and overcoming them can be so rewarding to yourself and your relationships.
Untreated Mental Health Issues
Many people struggle with 1 or more mental health issues such as: depression, anxiety, bipolar, ADHD, etc. and it can take a toll on yourself and your relationships. What matters here is how the issue is handled and is your partner in therapy or in treatment of some kind. Seeking help is a way to preserve your own mental health but also can save your relationships with friends and family.
Can my relationship be saved?
Heading to an Accelerated Couples Immersive Retreat with me can give both of you the much needed clarity regarding your relationship history, changes that need to be made and steps forward if you’re going to save your marriage.
If you and your partner aren’t sure if you can make the relationship work anymore, reach out to me for an Accelerated Couples Immersive Retreat. I’d love to help you fall in love again!!