AM I TOO MUCH?

WHY AM I SO ANXIOUS IN MY RELATIONSHIP?

Feeling anxious in a relationship is more common than most people think. This often stems from deeper emotional patterns or unmet needs from the past or your current relationship.

Here are some of the most common reasons people experience anxiety in their relationship:

1. Fear of abandonment or rejection – If you’ve been hurt in past relationships or had inconsistent caregivers growing up, you might fear being left, not being good enough or even being “too much”.

2. Insecure attachment style – People with an anxious attachment style often seek reassurance and may overanalyze their partner’s actions. They often fear disconnection or distance from their partner which may activate the anxiety in the relationship.

3. Lack of communication or clarity – If expectations, boundaries, or feelings aren’t openly discussed, you may fill in the gaps with worst-case scenarios. Without information our brains jump to conclusions and may even make up stories, which may or may not be true.

4. Self-esteem issues – When you don’t feel secure in yourself or your relationship, it’s easy to feel doubts in the relationship and worry that you’re “too much” for your partner or they might lose interest in being with you.

5. Your partner’s behavior – If they’re inconsistent, distant, or not emotionally available, it can naturally lead to you feeling anxiety.

6. Overthinking and rumination – If you tend to overanalyze or imagine negative outcomes, your mind may be feeding your anxiety on a loop.

In creating a secure relationship that works for both people, it’s important to stay solid and grounded in who you are, as well as ask your partner for reassurance when needed.

If you’d like to explore relationship anxiety more and how to reduce it, reach out to me at: [email protected]