GASLIGHTING: IS IT HAPPENING TO ME?

Gaslighting can be subtle and disorienting anytime but especially in close relationships. We want to believe in our partner but when being gaslit things are confusing and don’t make sense. It’s a form of emotional manipulation where one person tries to make the other doubt their own perceptions, feelings, or memory.

Here are some common signs your partner may be gaslighting you:

🌀 1. They deny things you know happened

• You bring up a specific event or conversation, and they insist it never happened or that you imagined it.
• Example: “I never said that — you always twist things.”

🪞 2. They twist facts or shift blame

• You try to discuss an issue, but somehow the conversation turns into why you’re the problem.
• Example: “You’re so sensitive — you can’t take a joke.”

🧠 3. You start doubting your memory or sanity

• You find yourself second-guessing things you were once sure about.
• You might even apologize for things that aren’t your fault just to “keep the peace.”

💬 4. They minimize your feelings

• When you express hurt, they dismiss it or tell you you’re overreacting and that it was nothing.
• Example: “You’re being dramatic — it wasn’t that big of a deal.”

🚫 5. They isolate you or undermine your confidence

• They make you feel like others wouldn’t understand or take your side.
• Over time, you might feel smaller, more confused, or afraid to speak up.

Some healthy signs to contrast

• They’re open to hearing how their behavior affects you.
• They take responsibility for their actions, words or when they’re wrong.
• You feel emotionally safe expressing disagreement or hurt.

If you suspect gaslighting:

• Keep notes or screenshots of what’s said (just for your clarity — not to confront them).
• Talk to someone you trust — a friend, therapist, or counselor can help you reality-check your experiences.
• Check in with your body — if you often feel anxious, confused, or drained after interactions, that’s important to note. Our body often knows what our mind tries to deny or rationalize.

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