Single during the holidays? You’re not alone

During the holidays TV commercials and Hallmark movies show us that “everyone” is having an exciting time with friends and loving family members but if this isn’t you then you might be feeling more lonely, sad or even depressed during the holidays. It’s natural to feel more down or isolated when you’re single, especially if you’re someone who values companionship or connection. You’re normal.

There are several psychological and emotional reasons why being without a partner might impact your mood and feelings of well-being during the holiday season:

1. Emotional Support: Relationships often provide a source of emotional support. When you’re single, you might miss the reassurance, affection, and companionship that come from having a partner.
2. Sense of Belonging: Being in a relationship can create a sense of belonging and connection with another person. When you’re without one, you might feel lonely or disconnected from others, which can lead to sadness or feelings of inadequacy.
3. Cultural and Societal Expectations: In many societies, there’s pressure to be in a romantic relationship, whether it’s through media, social norms, or family expectations. We do live in a couple focused society. If you’re not in a relationship, it might feel like you’re missing out or falling short of societal expectations, which can lead to feelings of depression.
4. Attachment and Bonding: Human beings are wired for connection. Romantic relationships often involve a deep emotional bond that can provide a sense of safety and security. We’re meant to bond with others. When you’re not in a relationship, you might feel a lack of emotional closeness with others, which can affect your mood and overall mental health.
5. Self-Worth and Validation: Relationships can offer external validation—feeling desired, valued, or important to someone else. If you’re single, you might struggle with feelings of self-doubt, lower self-esteem, as a sign of not being good enough.
6. The “Happiness” Myth: There’s a common misconception that having a partner is the key to happiness. While a supportive, healthy relationship can enhance well-being, it’s important to remember that happiness comes from within and from having a balanced, fulfilling life, both with and with yourself.
7. Fear of Missing Out (FOMO): You might feel that other people with partners are enjoying a type of life or experiences you’re not, such as candlelit dinners or walking hand in hand down a street lit by holiday lights. Thinking about what you’re missing out on can amplify feelings of loneliness or sadness.

It’s also worth noting that being single doesn’t automatically lead to depression. Many people experience a sense of freedom, personal growth, and peace when they are single.

However, if your feelings of sadness are overwhelming or persistent, it may be helpful to set up an appointment to talk to me. I can help you process these emotions and explore how to build a more fulfilling life, whether you’re single or in a relationship.

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